Marriage is the Best

#54 - Emotional Ownership

Taking ownership of our emotions and not taking ownership for our partners is one of the many principles that make marriage work. Peter discusses the differences between taking influence from your partner and taking responsibility for their emotions. Enjoy! 
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#53 - What's Next?

So, you know and understand the Sustainable System Model for Marriage (SSMM). Peter discusses what he normally finds once couples and individuals understand the model and how to manage through. Enjoy!
Mr. Universe, Jim Gaffigan
Atomic Habits, James Clear
Trust, Henry Cloud
The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#52 - The Sustainable System Model for Marriage (SSMM)

The culmination of one year of podcasting. The system developed to help you sustain your marriage throughout time no matter what. Thank you to Becca for her support and love in this long arduous process. 
Trust, Henry Cloud
The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#51 - Before "I do": Five Foundational Beliefs

Peter discusses five foundational beliefs that those who are not yet married may want to consider as they journey through dating, singleness, or early marriage. Friendship, commitment and struggle all make marriage beautiful in different ways. Thanks for listening! 
The following songs were used briefly for enhancing our discussion:
•“I Do” by Colbie Caillat — © 2011 Universal Republic
•“The Trouble with Love Is” by Kelly Clarkson — © 2003 BMG
•“We Belong Together” by Mariah Carey — © 2005 Island Def Jam
•“If I Ain’t Got You” by Alicia Keys — © 2004 J Records
All clips used to enhance discussion about marriage; rights remain with the respective artists and labels.
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#50 - Marriage, Friendship, and Stuff

Peter discusses the importance and difficulty of marriage and friendship. Peter talks about all sorts of different kinds of relationship that exist outside of our marriages. 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#49 - Developing Emotional Intimacy

Peter discusses the SHUKA model (Seen, Heard, Understood, Known, Accepted/Appreciated) for emotional intimacy. Answering questions regarding how one creates and maintains emotional intimacy across time in order to sustain the marital connection forever. Thank you to Def for a little help with the episode. 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#48 - Marriage as a System: Demands and Requirements

Marriage requires a lot of us and we benefit from sacrificing our time, our desires, and parts of ourselves in order for it to thrive. 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#47 - The Conflict Episode

All things conflict! 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#46 - Marriage and Tragedy

It has been a heavy week in the world. Tragedy is a part of life and therefore it is a part of marriage. How we move through tragedy is directly linked to the strength, effort, and priority with put in our marriage. God bless. 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.

#45 - Marriage Counseling: Balance

Peter discusses marriage counseling and attempting to find balance between couples in order to build up a healthy working relationship. Peter identifies the lack of balance in a lot of marital content that undermines marriages moving toward health. 
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The Love Prescription, Gottman 
Hooked: The Brain Science on How Casual Sex Affects Humans
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Resources:Counseling Resource (East and South Metro MN and telehealth): https://counselingcare.us
Parenting Great Kids with Dr Meg Meeker: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DXzVlmAHrYcvClM42E0C7?si=_2yZt3fFRMKUuxbO9-ku6w
The Ramsey Show: 
https://open.spotify.com/show/5exfRPDNCBHmntEkJrlLmX?si=c3210281b47a4500
Resources:
Preparing for Marriage, Rainey: 
7 Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman:
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, Stosny
Hold Me Tight, Johnson
Getting the Love You Want, Hendricks & Hunt
If your marriage is in trouble, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area. If you or someone you know is in an abusive marriage, please reach out to the national hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788. Marriage is the Best but it can also be unsafe and if you or a loved one are unsafe reaching out for help can be the first step toward healing. God bless.